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I don’t know to say. Really, I don’t know what to say.
This is a follow up to my video Thailand holiday girlfriend.
There were so many comments below that video; so many misconceptions that I don’t even know where to start but the best place to start is probably this misconception of ‘exploitation’.
Man, I don’t know what my recommendation would be. Maybe stop watching TV or reading mainstream newspaper but I really don’t know what else would work.
Human Trafficking in Thailand
Do exploitation, sex slavery and human trafficking exist?
Absolutely. Absolutely – they do exist. Is this what I’m talking about here? Absolutely not – in fact, I am talking about the complete opposite.
This is what many guys and mainstream media fail to understand.
They live in some fantasy; they have never been to Thailand. They have probably never actually talked to a freelancer and they have this idea of slavery that girls are being forced to have sex with guys or work as Bangkok escorts.
That they have been kidnapped from some town in northern Thailand and had their passport taken away and now they have to work in a Red Light District in Thailand.
Look, what I’m talking about is a freelancer.
Thailand Freelancer
That’s a regular/normal Thai girl maybe between 20 and 30 years old that kind of likes to hook up with foreigners
Okay and maybe she does this 10 times, maybe 20 times and then she comes to the realization that hooking up with farang (foreign guys) is fun, but getting dumped is not.
She wants to continue and tells herself,
‘I don’t like this so now next time I’m just gonna ask for money I’m still gonna only go with the guys that I like that I have a good time with or for whatever reason you know did I enjoy. I’m not gonna go with ANY guy.’
Exact same thing as before.
She’s just gonna go out again you know meet the guys that she wants to meet anyway but now she’s gonna ask for money or maybe just maybe you know she’s gonna save for a house or for her family.
Same thing as a regular girl – the only difference is that she says you know what we’re gonna skip the whole dating thing.
A regular girl might say you know what I would like to be taken out for a date – let’s go have dinner maybe then you entertain me and we do something I don’t know what what that could be and that’s it.
The other girl says you know what we can skip all that nonsense. I’m not gonna go with a guy that I don’t like or that I find disgusting only gotta go with the guys that I like and this is the big thing that you have to get into your head.
If you’ve been brainwashed by mainstream media; this is not exploitation this is not being forced this is entirely up to them which guy they choose or if they want to go with a guy on that day or not go out at all.
That’s it okay and once you understand this I think maybe you have a different perspective because if I’m thinking this is exploitation that takes place here – that they’re being forced, of course I would think this is horrible this is disgusting how can this even exist.
But this is not what I’m talking about here and I never recommend to go to any places where the girls are being forced or something like that.
Of course common sense and decency will dictate that you only do this in the context of you know the girl actually likes you she wants to go with you and she still does it for the money yeah, but she still has decided to do this.
Right that’s it – end of the story.
So once you realize this then you might understand that what you would do with a regular girl – it’s the exact same thing the exact same thing as with a freelancer.
In many cases the only difference is the setup and the form of payment. You know the regular girl might say let’s go on a date, let’s do this.
The freelancer says instead of the date let’s just give me money. You know what I mean this is the girl says you know pay me and you actually – oh that’s bad!
Same girl if you say you know what let’s meet 9 p.m. for dinner date and afterwards then you take her to your place then it’s fine you know.
What’s the difference? I don’t think there’s a difference. You know if the girl voluntary decides to meet up with you the difference is just a different payment.
Also don’t make the mistake of comparing apples and oranges because a lot of times when I talk about this whole thing call it a girlfriend or even freelancers in general guys bring up the argument where they say you know what this is nothing like what I have
I have a Thai girlfriend and this is completely different!
I mean what? What? Really? You think I’m comparing this to a relationship? You think I’m telling you that a freelancer or pay-for-play is better than a relationship?
These are two completely different things. All I’m saying is a freelancer or when you pay your girl is almost the same thing as a one-night stand or as a hookup.
Right that’s all I’m saying. I never said you know what it’s the same thing as a long-term relationship; those are completely different things.
Another thing that I see often in the comment section is the claim that pay for play it pathetic or something along those lines. I’m willing to talk about anything, discuss anything – no problem but when somebody says something is better than something else I would expect the guy to have experience with both things.
Right you can’t just say this is better than the other or that a regular Thai girl is better than a freelancer but you’ve never tried a freelancer.
And in many instances when I see commenting like this the guy has not had any experience with freelancers so try it out and then come back and we discuss it right.
Because I know at least a dozen guys like this they have never tried for answers there wants to try them it’s like whoa this is actually no different than a regular girl.
And then you know I wouldn’t say they do it all the time but it’s like whenever they feel like it they’re just like you know what I’m not going to waste time with a regular girl I’m just gonna pay because I want that experience now and that’s it.
And personally this is just my theory about it is that it has that it’s an ego thing when a guy says it’s pathetic because why would you say that if you have no problem with it.
Like if it’s not an ego thing you will just say you know I prefer this over that. I like this, I don’t like that.
But you won’t say this is so bad – but anytime someone is very emotional about it I think it’s an ego thing and what I’ve seen personally my theory is and that this is often coming from guys that have .. haven’t maybe had enough experience with regular women.
You know I’ve had guys say the paying for it is kind of like it’s a turn-off it’s like like it doesn’t it doesn’t do anything for them it’s it actually turns them off.
But once the same guys have had a bit of experience with regular women and something clicks in their head where they say you know what I used to say that guys pay for girls because they can’t get regular girls.
You know what, I actually realize I can get regular girls it’s like not a big deal it’s just that I don’t want to put in the time anymore.
Once that it clicks in their head that they can actually get girls and they’re actually confident about it then they say you know uh I don’t need to prove anything anymore I can get girls so I’d simply decide you know today or this month that I’m not willing to put in time with girls.
I’m just gonna pay for it but in the back of my mind I know I’m not doing it to escape or because I have no other option- it’s just a choice that I make okay and I think that’s a big difference.
But you guys can let me know if you know if you agree with that or if you have a different opinion and maybe the final point that I want to make here is the idea of that traditional Thai girl.
A lot of guys say you know there’s the freelancer and then there is the girl that they meet, that they go on a date with which is the traditional you know good Thai girl.
I was talking to a girl that I had met a while ago a few months ago and I asked well I don’t really know what what the discussion was but I said you know what this is like you know common practice.
Right you meet a Thai girl and then he hook up with that girl on the first date on a second date and she said no not at all this is not the case at all.
I said what are you talking about – this is every guy that I know myself etc. and she said no this is the girls that speak English the real traditional Thai girls they don’t even speak English; they don’t even meet white guys.
So the Thai girls that you’re thinking of when you’re meeting regular girls are not the traditional you know good Thai girls. They might be good Thai girls but these are not the traditional ones – these are already like the westernized Thai girls.
Maybe that kind of like changes their perspective.
Another question has been when is the best time to actually pull this off if you let’s say you get on you wanna holiday girlfriend the whole set up.
Low season or high season? The big difference of course it would always depend on a girl right but just a theoretical example: let’s say during high season she has 20 guys interested.
During low season, she has 10 guys interested. If she decides to only go with one or two guys per day any additional interest beyond those two guys becomes somewhat irrelevant.
of course this example is not totally accurate because the girl might raise the price but in general I personally would not worry about it because there are so many other factors.
Just go to Thailand when it suits you best – if the deal you make with the girl is okay for you then go ahead and if not then you talk to another girl.
But all this you know theory about peak season, low season, prices, advantageous, benefits, downsides … it’s kind of like nonsense because you never know.
You could also say you know during peak season more guys but also more girls so it kind of balances out the increased demand so to speak.
At the end of the day go whenever you think it’s best for you or when you can take time of work and you know that’s it.
That’s my answer. Anyway let me know your thoughts in regards to this video in the comment section below and I see in the next video.